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the gifts of true friendship

are there women in your life that you feel especially drawn to, that there is something about the quality of who they are that makes you always want to be a part of thier world? do you ever wonder what those qualities might be? here are some beautiful examples of the kind of women you want to have in your circle (and probably already do). it’s the kind of woman we all srtive to be!

1. they always see your strengths ~ and they always make you proud to be yourself because they tell you why you are so special. they don’t focus on your limitations and they are always one of your biggest cheerleaders!

2. they trust you completely ~ to be thier confidant, to hold thier secrets, to listen to thier dreams, to not judge them, and to always tell the (gentle) truth. in turn, you can completely trust them, and feel cared for and safe inside the nest of your friendship together.

3. they respect you ~ as well as your point of view and choices, even if they are different than thier own. they are always open to a different perspective and embrace learning a new way from you. in the same way they live by thier own rules, but don’t expect you to follow them.

4. they are authentic and at peace with themselves ~ and don’t have to prove anything to you, and they don’t need to judge you. they appreciate and celebrate all the wondeful and unique quirks that make you, You!

5. they are good listeners and sincerely interested in you ~ they make you want to share yourself with them.

6. they inspire you to be your best self ~ and shine like bright stars in our lives. 

7. they make us laugh!

what are some other wonderful can’t-live-without qualities of the women you hold dear in your lives? go tell them today how much they mean to you!


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