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mar.20 {a naughty book list for smart girls}



A girl can't live on chick lit alone.  Actually, I haven't read any fiction in a fairly long time, the last book being Pull of the Moon (last summer maybe?) by Elizabeth Berg which was a beautiful and compelling read - highly recommended!  My tastes have definitely shifted over the years and I am reading mostly non-fiction these days, juicy memoirs, creative living books, books on writing, painting, mixed media, oodles of magazines mostly about creativity and often indie zines, and of course the sex related books.  All good stuff.

In the spirit keeping it real around here, I thought I'd share with you some good sexy reads, again mostly non-fiction, but juicy and informative none the less.  Most of these I have actually read, but there are a few that I haven't but are sitting on my nightstand (so to speak, though not with kids around!).  You'll see as noted.  Hope this adds a little warmth to your Spring!




Forever by Judy Blume - I'm including this only because it was kind of an icon of my pre-teen years and my very first peek at anything sex related in writing.  Oh, what a buzz this book created!

The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice -  I read these books long before 50 Shades which is now giving this series, vaguely similar in flavor, a new life.  The fairytale is a fascinating and seductive retelling of a classic (a brilliant format, I think), but has a fairly intense focus on the theme of sexual power dynamics and definitely is not for everyone's taste.

The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure by Tristan Tarimino - Really, any of Tristan's books are sex-positive, thoughtful and informative so I know this one about women in the porn industry, her latest publication, will be as well.  She was recently on NPR talking about open relationships and will be in Toronto for the Feminist Porn Awards on April 15th (in case you were wondering).

American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics by Dan Savage - Another great contemporary sex educator/author, any books by Dan will be achingly funny and brutally honest.  This book is slotted to come out in May of this year, and I know it's one I want to read.  He also has a great sex advice column, The Stranger, and hilarious but very real podcast, Savage Love.

A Year of Sex by Mia Martina - I know I've already shared an excerpt of Mia's book, but it's worth repeating as a really interesting and steamy read.  She also has an erotic storytelling podcast, I Want Your Sex that is well written and read in her own sultry voice. 

The Story of O by Pauline Réage - This piece of classic erotica from the 1950's was originally written in Franch and later translated into English and published in the states in 1965 which was seen as a landmark event in the commercialism of erotic writing.  It is another read that is a detailed immersion into a supposed fictional world of bdsm, and was said to have been compiled from a series of love letters the author had written to her lover at the time.   

Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá - This book has been getting a bit of buzz recently over it's anthropological view of how humans are not wired to be monogamous.  It's an interesting perspective at the intersection of science and modern sociology.

Forbidden Flowers: More Women's Sexual Fantasies by Nancy Friday - The second edition of a collection of real-world fantasies shared by women (of which I've only read the first) and though revealing, leans a bit to the clinical side and is fairly psychoanalytic.  She's written several other interesting compilations from both men and women's sexual perspectives. 

Whip Smart: The True Story of A Secret Life by Melissa Febos - First of all, I want to give props to the author for using her real name as the author of this revealing expose.  It's a detailed inside look at the life and work of a professional dominatrix.  I haven't read this yet, but did hear an interview with Melissa about a year or so ago that had my curiosity peaked.

Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us by Jessie Bering - A discussion about the inherent non-normative and alternative predilections that the majority (if not all) people have with regard to sexuality.  This book is not out until next fall, but you can read his current book, which is provocative essays on taboo issues of human behavior.  I recently read a great review for this book on Huff Post, and Alex who is currently reading it is and enjoying the book.

Heads in Beds: A Reckless Memoir of Hotels, Hustles, and So-Called Hospitality by Jacob Tomsky - While not specifically a sex themed book, this inside look at what goes on behind closed doors in hotels as told by a new college graduate thrown into the hospitality industry, reveals many dirty little secrets and shameless activities of both guests and employees.  I'm told you will never look at hotels the same, ever.



           

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