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november *sex savvy* crush list

{"Love Story" 6x6 mixed media on wood}

It was a huge month in a lot of ways filled with personal triumphs and memorable milestones all topped off with a big shiny bow of gratitude.  This special edition of the monthly Crush List includes a round-up of some great sex-positive resources and events I want to share with you as a special thank for all the LOVE you shared.  Here's hoping that all of the positive cheers and caring nods you sent our way might inspire the rest of you to be a little more daring and real with your own sexy life!

This is THE love pie that started it all, and actually a recipe my son came across while waiting in the dentist's office, Maple Pumpkin Pie with Salted Pecan Brittle.  We made it with a salted roasted pumpkin seed brittle so it would be nut-free friendly for this family, and it was so delicious (if you like that sort of thing.  I am not a pumpkin pie girl, but the boys enjoyed it).  This recipe is one for the books and will always be a beloved celebratory reminder of many sweet things.

I fittingly discovered that the BRC, Bisexuality Resource Center, the only of it's kind in this country, is right here in our very own neighborhood.  This Boston-based organization helps provide support and resources for bisexual individuals and their families.  The bisexual community is a minority within a minority and an underserved subculture that is often overlooked and misunderstood.  I'm looking forward to learning more about this awesome place.

The Artisan's Assylum, an amazing industrial and multi-media community art studio in Somerville, has a Friday evening meet-up group called Teasecraft, where people gather to make sexy things.  From clothing to toys, this crafty group is pretty hot stuff and is also a great resource for connecting with other sex-positive folks and resources.

This past month, I also happily stumbled over the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island.  Who knew so many sex-savvy places were so close by?  I am hoping to make a field trip to the center soon, but for those of you who are looking for information and resources on adult sexual health and exploration, the center is a great resource for many things from basic 101 classes and educationally based pamphlets to varsity level sexploration, and more.

A great resource for people looking for a sex-positive therapist or service provider (including sex educators, physicians, nurses, social workers, psychologists, allied health professionals, clergy members, lawyers, sociologists, marriage and family counselors and therapists, family planning specialists), the AASECT lists members in your local area who are committed to practices that do not pathologize nor stigmatize people due to certain sexual preferences or lifestyles and promote a broader understanding of human sexuality with regard to the service they provide.

There are many awesome podcasts that feature real-world, honest, smart and funny sex advice on a broad range of topics.  If you've wondered about it, chances are they are talking about it (and more). Sex Out Loud with Tristan Taormino and Savage Lovecast hosted by Dan Savage are two of my favorites.


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