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Showing posts from June, 2020

coming out of the fog

I lived most of my life completely disembodied, so much so, that when I would walk by a mirror I’d often be surprised to see an Asian person staring back at me. It wasn’t that I hated my body in that way we are taught to by diet culture to lament our fat and imperfections (also part of our larger system oppression, btw, and I later struggled with this too). I simply felt no connection to my body at all - a kind of dysphoria without any language or understanding - and often longed to be white. It’s taken decades to finally begin to decolonize myself from whiteness and to see, understand, and inhabit my identity as a Korean woman. Adoptees often refer to this as “coming out of the fog”. Last night I was on a call with over 300 other transracial adoptees of all different races, examining and sharing about our unique positioning in supporting the Black Lives Matter movement. I realized that our narratives are also our unique superpower, as we’ve been navigating the nuanced and difficult co

love inside the gap

{photo my friend Jeff took and sent to me while living in S. Korea,  Buddha's birthday celebration} I didn't intend for a month to go by without writing in this space. It certainly was not for any lack of things to say or share. There's just been so much, so so much ... and I have been trying to tease apart and process the many layers of thoughts, emotions and events over the last month, especially the last two weeks, into something coherent and wise.  A global health crisis alongside my birth family search and the reintegration of my Korean identity against a world-altering racial pandemic, all feel tied together in some important way that I am still trying to fully understand.  Some parts I can see so clearly. The way history, war, devastation, colonization, patriarchy and oppression have created conditions for some really painful truths in my life distilled down through generations into the inner workings of my individual relationships. I am constantly working through th

Red Mask Project

#redmaskproject A community craftivism initiative making handmade RED masks in support of anti-racism  ♥  RED for visibility of racism as a virus and public health crisis ♥  RED to STOP violence towards black and brown people ♥   RED for blood spilled and lives lost, but not forgotten ♥  RED for revolutionary action as LOVE Make a mask. Wear a mask. Share a mask. GET SCRAPPY! Use what you have in your stash to make your mask - an old t-shirt, leftover fabric, hair-tie elastics or ribbon work as ear loops. If you'd like to buy supplies, please shop your local BIPOC or indie owned  and allied  store to source your red fabric and supplies. Small business are hurting right now and we can vote with our dollars who to support! GATHER HERE in Cambridge, MA, POC and queer owned, has been leading the mask-making charge here in the Boston area and has solid red fabric in stock, as well as these four prints (below). FANCY TIGER CRAFTS in Denver, CO, always outspok